The Pigeon has to go to school

Huurah for the Pigeon!!! He is Going to School ON Bus ūüôā¬† ūüôā¬† ūüôā¬† Is he going to drive it? No. But at least he can get on the bus ūüôā ūüôā

The Pigeon HAS to Go to School!

Thank you, Mo Willems, for writing this lovely book

While walking around in the store, my eyes glanced at The Pigeon Has to Go to School. I had to read it right there and then. I chuckled while reading it. What a complete circle for the pigeon!! Finally, he will be allowed to get on the bus ūüôā ūüôā He is invited to get on the bus ūüôā ūüôā

I like the story for its simplicity, the message, and just for the pigeon. Mo, take a bow for giving voice to children just starting school, all of us who are afraid and fighting with ourselves before starting a new endeavor. Talk about intrinsic motivation, a cause that allows us to overcome our fears, our excuses and embrace a new journey.

I relate to this book on a personal level. I am on my journey of becoming a marriage and family therapy. Soon I will start field experience. I also have insecurities, just like the pigeon. Like him, I am overcoming them as I am looking forward to earning my degree and starting a career helping families define strong for themselves.

Have you read the book? What do you think of it?

Let us Talk about ADHD

What is ADHD? 

Let us talk about Attentin-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

Your child is recently diagnosed with Attention-Deficit / Hyperactivity Disorder, coomonly known as  ADHD.  Reading that it is a mental disorder affecting functioning and development has you worried. Your mind is thinking: 

My child just got dignosed with ADHD!!!

  Why? Why? What did I do? What can I do?

MY Child just got Dignosed with ADHD!!!! Why? Why? What did I do? What can I do? My child... is a such a wonderful person But who can see it When... He refuses to Meet His PotentiaL DayDreams ALL the Time (OK, MOST of the Time, but still)... Shows a Chronic Lack of Stayin ON Task Is Hyperactive, InAttentive and Senstive My Beautiful Child... What have I done? Where do we go from Noew?" - - Parent of a child who recently diagnosed with ADHD

 

Take a deep breath. According to Center of Disease Controt (CDC),  about 10% of school-age children are diagnosed with ADHD each year (CDC, 2020). ADHD exists all across the globe ( ), pa anRemeber, this is the same wonderful child you had before the diagnosis. 

Diagnosing Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: 

There is no single asessment or test that can determine presence or absence of ADHD.  The diagnosis requires a comprehensive evaluation by a licensed clinician, such as a pediatrician, psychologist, or psychiatrist with expertise in ADHD. They will use 5th Edition Diagnostic Manual and Statistical Manual of  Mental Disorders (DSM-5), input from teachers, parents and other care givers before making a diagnosis.

Diagnostic Criteria for ADHD

 

Let us hear from experts from National Institute of Mental Health 

 

Symptoms of Attention-Deficit/ Hyperacitivity Disorders

Chronic patten of inattention and / or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interferes with functioning or developemt

 

 

ADHD can be predpminantly inattentive, prominently hyperactive- Impulsive or combination of both

 

An Inattentive Type:

  • Easily distracted
  • ApparenADHD can appear in children between ages of 3=6 and may continue in adulthoodt Listening Problems
  • Difficulty following direction
  • Forgetful in daily activities
  • Trouble paying attention to details
  • often makes careless errors in schoolwork
  • Does not complete assigned task
  • Tendency to lose things, toys, notebooks, homework
  • Problems with organization
  • Avoids / dislikes tasks that need mental effort
  • hyperfocused on things they like

 

A HyperActive & Impulsive Type: 

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  • fidgeting & Squirming
  • Problems remain seated
  • Constantly on the go, running around when inappropriate
  • Excessive talking, often at inappropriate time
  • Butts into conversations uninvited
  • Inability to wait for turn
  • Unable to settle in quiet activity
  • frequent touching or handling objectd

Major causes of ADHD

  • ADHD is a disease often Causes of ADHD are unknown, but the current research on ADHD does show genetic links (DSM-5, 2013; Medline Plus, 2020; NIMH, 2016).
  • A child whose sibling or parent have ADHD will have a higher prevalence of ADHD
  • Though parental relations and Socioeconomic class may contribut to severity of ADHD, they are not the cause of it.¬†

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major-causes-risk-factors-of-adhd-does include genetic factors, premature delivery, low birth weight, Brain injury, Social Aspects, Prenatal tobacco, alcohol or substance abuse y mom, prenatal / early age exposue to environemtnal toxins

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cultural Considerations:

To avoid misdiagnosis, sociocultul considerations are essential during assessment of ADHD (Garcia et al. 2021).  By praticing cultural humiltity and addressing ADHD symptoms in context of client, a clinician will rule out inattention, hyperactvity and impulsivity caused by other factors (Vinson, n.d.). Historically, African-American children and

Treating ADHD : 

  • Though ADHD is listed as one of the mental disorders (American Psychiatric Association, 2013) , it is not an anomaly or a disease that can be cured.
  • A person can manage the ADHD by medications, psychotherapy, or combination of both.
  • Multimodal treatment has show better results in ADHD management than either the psychotherapy or the medication alone.¬†
  • CDC recommnetations :
    Children ages 4-6 years
    Children and adolescents 6-18 years

    Recommended treatment for children and adolescents includes

Medication: 

ADHD Medications include Stimulants and non-stmulantsStiimulants such as Methylin, Adderall and Dexedrine shows good reults but has side effects.

Non-stimulants have fewere side effects

Research on changes in diets, Eastern medicine and alternative treatments are ongoing

Psychoterapy: 
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)is often used as mode of therapy for ADHD. It is aimed at changing client’s percseption on self, helping them gaining coping skills to deal with lack of executive functioning and self-esttem.
  • Mindfullness, meditation and self-regualtion along with talk therapy are used for psychoeducation.
  • Family places a big part in empowering or demeaning the person with ADHD (Dyken, 2015).
  • Parent training must be customized to the culture and family rather than one size fits all approach (Manos et al. 2017)


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What can Parents & Family Do?

  • Listen and respect your child, validate their feelings
  • Treat ADHD from a strength based perspective.
  • Provide Structure at home
  • Keep routine and a schedule.
  • Teach them to sef-regualte;¬† provide necessary tools
  • Organize everyday items and keep everythig in its place
  • Advocate for your child at school, home and community at large
  • Collaborate with your child andhis medical care team to find out severity of the disorder, treatment goals and plans
  • Explore if your child will qualify under Idea or will have IEP to accomodate his learning needs
  • Rather than allowing the ADHD as a clutch, continue to hold them accountable for their actions. Be clear about consequences and follow through

 

 

Whare can I look for more information? 

Click on a tile for more resources

 

REferences

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Neurodevelopmental Disorders. In Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.)

Donzelli G, Carducci A, Llopis-Gonzalez A, Verani M, Llopis-Morales A, Cioni L, Morales-Suárez-Varela M. (2019). The Association between Lead and Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder: A Systematic Review. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health.16(3):382. https://doi.org/10.3390/ijerph16030382

Dykens, E. M. (2015). Family adjustment and interventions in neurodevelopmental disorders.¬†Current Opinion in Psychiatry, 28(2), 121‚Äď126

Manos, M. J., Giuliano, K., & Geyer, E. (2017). ADHD: Overdiagnosed and overtreated, or misdiagnosed and mistreated?.¬†Cleveland Clinic journal of medicine,¬†84(11), 873‚Äď880. https://doi.org/10.3949/ccjm.84a.15051

National Institute of Mental Health (2013). Attention-Deficit HyperActivity Disorder. Retrieved March 15, 2021 from  https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder-adhd/index.shtml

Smith, M. (2017). Hyperactive around the world?¬†The History of ADHD in Global Perspective, Social History of Medicine, 30(4), 767‚Äď787. https://doi.org/10.1093/shm/hkw127

Vinson, S. V. (n/d/). Evaluating and treating ADHD in African American Children: Guidance for clinicians. ADDitude inside the ADHD mind. https://www.additudemag.com/cultural-considerations-adhd/

 

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This blogpost is created for:

Attention-Deficiency Hyperactivity Disorder, a Neurodevelopment Diagnosis

MFT 6102- Pshychopathology, Diagnosis and Treatment

Mentor: Dr. Sharon BUrsky

Institution: Northcentral University

 

 

Work & Joy

 

I need to complete the genogram and write a case conceptualization, Easy? Breezy? May be. But it is taking me a LLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLooonnnggggggggggg time. I spent the week synthesizing material, worked on it several hours¬† yesterday and today….., I realize I had misread the directions.¬† Though I will be able to use most of the¬† material, I will need to redo a big chunk of paper.¬† Back to board we go.¬† As I am trying to complete the assignment before clock strikes last bell of midnight, words of Dr. Vikram Sarabhai comes to mind.

 

hmmmm! Wiser words were never spoken. 

Here we start again! 

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How R you?

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How are you doing?

Did you smile at a kid today? 

How about the one in mirror?

Wait in a line today? Why?

Picked up a phone to say hi?

Or bring some goodies to home bound?

 

How are you today?

Choose to believe.

We are stronger than this.

Work from home if you can.

Lose some income? Please lean on.

Try to stay sane.

This to shall pass.

Stay calm.

This too shall pass.

We are here 

to Remain. Strong. Together. Alive.

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Please lean on 

National Hotline: 800.273.TALK (8255)

Crisis Text Line accepts texts at 741741. Reach them from Facebook, phone,…

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#SOL20  #HowRYou #Today #Stay Calm

What’s in a Name? You Ask.

What is in a name? You ask.

Not much and everything.

Is it the hill I want to die on?

Is the the reason I want to dig my heel in?

 

Would it have made a difference for Herman?

Would he have fame?

Would he have enjoyed the riches?

And not died heartbroken, a dockworker, a layman

an not so famous author?

If he had only chosen to name his narrator

Tito, Jimmy, John or Alex  rather than Ishmael

?????

for Moby Dick?

 

Go ahead

Call me Corvette, not Purvi

TrIII ve DDDa not Trivedi

Call me Zaa EM ba, not Ziemba

Scramble up my name,

Call me a maa’m,

At end of the day,

I will remain the same.

 

But really,

would it be too much to ask

that you call me Purviben?

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Toilet paper Anyone?

 

 

Disasters, even impending ones, seems to turn us into hoarders.  Sometimes all the preparations and concerns are legit and other times we must shake our head and chuckle on our worries. Remember, Y2K?  The worry, the talks of impending dooms and how world was going to turn Topsy-Turvy on January 1, 2000?  Remember, how the Sun still shined, and societies kept on going without any glitch? On the other hand, if you live in Florida, preparations during hurricane season is a way of life. The worried, hurried evacuees of Florida in 2019 was no small matter. Those people prepared, got their stuff together and yet had to flee their homes as it was going underwater.

Yes, the loss of lives, income and disruption to day to day lives as a direct result of COVID-19 is real. Everyone wants to make sure that in case of quarantine or major shutdowns, they will have enough resources to carry on. The shelves in supermarkets are getting spare and hoarding of necessity items is going on full force. Let us not even talk about price gauging and worry about families stuck abroad. My only hope is just like in movies, we will find a cure in days, and life will get back to normal soon. 

Until then, did you make sure to buy enough milk to last for the impending quarantine? What about toilet paper & water?

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Today is the day

Today is The Day to make a list and check it twice.¬† Once I submit this week’s assignments, very first class of Marriage and family Therapy will be in the books.¬† wow!¬†

 

Today is the day to tackle the laundry and start a war on clutter.

Is today the day to go out and shop for more?

Would it be tacking Corona or hording more?

Today is the way to make decision.

Do I need to spend 2 hours browsing or spend it  on whatever?

Today is the day for the family supper, 

Today is definitely the day to cook the supper (and not the goose).

Today is the day to submit that paper

Today is the day to be me, just the version that is better.

 

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#Sol20, #Today

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Quizzes Bizzies

 

I am BBBBEEEEhind (add some scary faces, or not ūüôā )

Plan:

Mon РTuesday: Study, Watch videos, review, take notes,  let ides percolate

Wednesday: Take Quiz

Thursday – Friday: Write & Submit ” What I Bring in Therapy Room”

Saturday – Volunteer for Solo & Ensemble, Attend Twice told Tales

Sunday: Complete & submit “Use of Crisis Text Lines in Mental Health Care”

Reality: 

Mon, Tuesday, Wednesday – Study, watch, video

Thursday – Completing Quiz,

My Superman is under the weather so plans need to change for Friday & I am driving to and from to pick up Amaze for Spring back so I can be at Solo and Ensemble at 8:30 AM

This means, I need to find the fortitude and borrow Superman’s time turner.

 

Did you say you have one too?¬† Feel free to lend it to me.¬† On a second thought, I bet you need to keep it for you. ūüôā

Let’s dig in and check off the tasks.

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Super Tuesday

Super Tuesday

A day when political future of many President wanna  be is being decided by general population.  Or is it, really?

For democratic party two female and two male candidates are still standing.  But if we here media hype, we will not even know Tulsi Gabbard  is in running.  When pundits are discussing Biden & Bernie, Warren is mentioned in passing.

No, I will not call it a conspiracy or old white men’s ways to keep capable candidates away.¬† I will call what it is.¬† Apathy and inaction from general public, media’s greedy grab for TRP and …… .

Did you vote in primary?  Are you looking forward to the general election?

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#SOL20

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Laundry

Laundry

Laundry.  Never ending one task.  I remember the time when my daughter was itty bitty and into changing clothes.  I had to sit her down and explained that if she changes 5 outfits in a day, all of them does not need to go into wash.

Today, the washer was kid of quiet.  When I went to do washer-dryer exchange, I realized, I had closed the lid but forgot to press start.  Getting old anyone?

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#SOL20

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Sitting other side of the desk

Other Side of the Desk

 

I am going back to school for Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy.¬† Sitting on other side of desk is….¬†

Enjoyable

Exhilarating

Scary

Overwhelming

Hard work

Allow me to have study dates with my kids

Let my kids boss me around about need to stay on task ūüôā¬†

 

In nutshell, being on other side of the desk gives me a perspective from my kids, my students’, view.¬† This week I have a quiz and 3 papers due, each 7-9 pages with at least 5 scholarly, peer reviewed references .¬† (OK. It would have been two, if I had managed my time right and have earlier submission on time. Still working on time management.¬†¬†

I am learning so much, fast paced and enjoying every minute of it, OK almost every minute of it.  Now, if I have this time management thing under control, then I will be rocking.

 

 

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Stay a child

 

To my child(ren)

 

Kids sitting on porch, only their shoes is seen
©Purviben K. Trivedi-Ziemba

 

Summer afternoon,

Lazy, Breezy, Carefree.

Enjoy, Relax, Be a child.

 

Before long, the calendar will move the pages.

Summer will be gone

and….

so will this carefree days.

 

Be

A Child,  A Girl & A Boy  Little longer

Before Becoming A Woman, A Man

And shepherding the responsibilities.

Stay.

a child little longer.

For me.

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#SOL20

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Rafael?

Candor De La Alborda (Candor of Dawn) Oil on Canvas painting by artist Rafael Soriano
Candor De La Alborda by Rafael Soriano

 

Mom holding her peeps

Kids connected by a kiss

or is it a breath of bliss?

Skull crushing the kids

or mom holding her peeps?

 

Heat

Heart, leg

red nails, yellow heads

holding, touching hands, 

touching, kicking leg(s)

 

Chopped, curved, tangled

Are you mouning what you have lost?

or celebrating what you must?

Rafael? Mr. Soriano?

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I wrote Rafael? for 5-day writing challenge¬†from¬†EthicalELA.¬† ¬†The aim here is to enter the art and explore with all senses; let the art guide the poem creation. Neat ya? Rafael Soriano’s painting Candor-De-La-Alborada spoke to me, intrigued me with its layers of being loving and macabre at the same time.¬† Reading about him, I learned that when this university professor and renowned Cuban artist exiled in Miami, USA, he changed how he presented his art.

What does Rafael Soriano, the artist whose oil on canvas painting inspire my poem says about his art?

‚ÄúI do not pretend to transmit a message of reality: I am moved by the longing to travel through my paintings in a dimension of spirit where the intimate and the cosmic converge.‚ÄĚ – Rafael Soriano

Want to know more about Rafael Soriano?

Soriano at Smithsonian

Soriano rediscovered: The Artist as Mystic

Rafael Soriano

Rafael Soriano (painter) Wiki

Want to write and share with us? Come and join us for writing challenge this month or next at Ethical ELA 5-day writing challenge.  Share your thoughts, share your passion.  Let our voices be heard.

 

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#Candor-De-La-Alborada

#TrivediZiemba

#Letartspeaktoyou

Deep Thoughts from A Mother

 

Deep Thoughts from A Mother

Sitting at my desk,

Not the desk.

Is it just a table?

is it even mine?

Glass table

Fragile  fragile  functional

Cuttered  Cluttered  Cramped…

Just like my life.

 

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The title was suggested by by son.  I created the poem and then asked him, what should I call it.  Hmm.

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#Life

#TrivediZiemba